“What brings you here today?”
That question is often the first thing you hear, following greetings, at a doctor’s appointment. And yet, the answer given is frequently a half-truth (or worse). Medical professionals know this, which is why they end the initial interview with some variation of “Is there anything else?”
That’s the question that usually elicits the true reason for the visit.
Human Nature
It’s normal to feel vulnerable or embarrassed when discussing private matters with others, regardless of the setting. And the anxiety of raising sensitive subjects with physicians can be exacerbated by perceived differences in status. Some people might feel that initiating discussion of certain topics is disrespectful or inappropriate – even when they involve the very reasons for their seeking help.
And then there’s the fear of being judged.
Please allow me to ameliorate those concerns.
Medical Professionalism
It’s safe to assume not many individuals greet their doctors by loudly proclaiming “Hello, doc! I think I caught syphilis again!” People tend to ease into the details, sometimes in painfully circuitous manner. But even if we’re blunt, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Doctors and nurses are professionals. They can handle uncomfortable details. Most of all, they appreciate your cutting to the chase, since that allows them more time to deal with what concerns you the most.
And that, ultimately, is what’s most important.
Prepare Yourself
Some preparation on your part can help medical professionals make the best use of their allotted time. And it can also help YOU ameliorate some of the anxieties you may have.
- Consider rephrasing anything that makes you uncomfortable. For example, use “groin” as opposed to “crotch” in describing the location of a bothersome rash or lump. Or describe some unexpected finding, and let the professional asked about the location.
- Make a list of questions you’d like answered, and use them to phrase your main concern – and to make sure all your concerns are addressed. It’s easy to forget what to ask under stress.
- If a professional brings up a concern you’re hesitant to discuss, jump at the invitation. Chances are she has a hunch of what’s really troubling you – or you’re trying to hide – and she’s ready to facilitate the exchange of information. Recognize the opportunity and unburden yourself.
- If you’re still unsure on how to broach a sensitive matter, write it down! Then give the note to the professional.
Photo by Abby Anaday on Unsplash